How Discernment Perfected My Bullshit Meter
Discernment is something I just recently started implementing in my life in the last few years. I didn’t even know I was doing it, but as one gets older, one’s bullshit meter tends to get pretty sensitive and the circle of people one chooses to spend time with tends to get smaller and smaller as a result.
This is a good thing.
Discernment — the ability to judge well — gives you back any power you unknowingly gave away to people that simply didn’t deserve those bits and pieces (and sometimes whole chunks) of you. Discernment keeps you in a constant space of authenticity. When you can do this, only that which is within your highest and best good is let in, while redirecting that which is not.
Discerning who is worthy of your time and energy takes patience. You have to learn how to take the time you need to assess people coming in and out of your life, even on a daily basis, to begin to fine-tune your own bullshit meter. It takes trusting in your intuition so that it becomes your secret weapon against giving your mind, body, or soul to situations and people that simple don’t have your best interest at heart. It takes not just a little self-worth to feel that you are worthy of the company of people that make your life better, while also showing the ones that don’t the door. It also takes adherence to whatever values you believe in and live by. Remembering and sticking to your moral, psychological, and emotional codes is what keeps you living the life you were meant to live and experiencing the things you were meant to experience. When you are only giving yourself to those that truly deserve it, you are lifted up because you are protected by their commitment to your wellbeing, as well as your own.
I now find that my circle is small but so very mighty. I am surrounded by people that truly get me. They love, support, watch out for, and enjoy me. They are committed to keeping me on my path just as much as I am committed to the same thing for them. I can be my best self, and even my worst, because they trust me and I trust them. It’s a life game-changer I wish I had known about a very, very long time ago.
If you have people in your life that don’t fit into any of these categories, you might want to consider ditching those soul-suckers and filling their void with those that fill you up. Some of my fondest memories are walking away from people that no longer had a place in my life.
Isn’t it time you made some of those memories for yourself?